The woman my husband is cheating with is married. I picked her number from my husband’s phone and checked her WhatsApp profile. She was wearing a wedding ring. Because I had her number, days later she popped up on my TikTok feed. She had a family video where her two children and husband featured.

After collecting all this evidence, I showed it to my husband so he’d know I’ve done the work and have the proof. He denied it and called me insecure. He warned me against checking his phone. Because of that, he changed his password.

I texted the lady on WhatsApp. She told me I should deal with my husband and leave her alone. She blocked me.

A few months later, she made a TikTok post thanking God for a safe delivery. She showed pregnancy photos and videos with her husband. I told myself, “From everything I know, this child will be for my husband. It’s possible.”

I started studying my husband’s fingers anytime he typed his password. It was hard, but nothing beats diligence. I got it. And the message I read that day was only three hours old. My husband asked, “How’s my daughter?” The woman responded, “I thought we agreed we wouldn’t talk about this here.”

Do I need any more evidence than this?

We have two kids. Both are boys. I’ve never seen him adore them the way he was all over the phone talking about their daughter. The lady said, “I hope you delete it.” My husband responded, “It’s auto-delete, remember?”

I have evidence this time. It’s captured on my phone with all the details, but I’m scared to ask questions. I don’t know what he will do if he finds out I have this information. I’m not sure if I want a divorce, so I don’t know if I should involve a third party in the issue. I can’t talk about it, and I also can’t keep calm about it. It’s like a pineapple in my clothes—prickly, but I can’t throw it away.

How do I handle a case like this? The best approach for me would have been to speak to the lady’s husband, but I don’t know where or how to find him.