Brother, let me tell you the truth about how a woman’s brain works when it comes to dating, relationships, and marriage.

It is in a man’s nature to provide and protect. When a man loves a woman, his instinct pushes him to give, to do things for her, to make her life easier. But her brain doesn’t interpret it the way you think.

To her, it signals that you are afraid of her, that you place her above yourself, that you are weak, foolish, and easily controlled. She interprets your kindness as submission, and once she believes she controls you, entitlement kicks in. She starts to misbehave, to talk anyhow, to act anyhow — because in her mind, “he loves me, he’s mine to control.”

And let me be clear, this applies to all women. Not most. Not some. All. Even the most feminine and submissive.

If you doubt it, study relationships around you. Ask men who’ve gone through it. Observe marriages. Her appreciation of your love doesn’t cancel her nature. Sooner or later, the dark side comes out.

That’s why you must always be alert. When she begins to misbehave because of your kindness, withdraw it immediately. Stop giving. Stop doing. Let her earn it back through her behavior.

When she notices the withdrawal, she will bring it up. Stand firm. Tell her plainly it stopped because of her behavior. If she wants the old you back, she must fix herself.

She will try to use sex as manipulation. She’ll bribe you with her body, hoping you’ll forget. Don’t fall for it. Take the sex if you want, but do not surrender your frame. Let her know sex is cheap, and it cannot buy your authority.

If she refuses to correct herself, let her go. If she threatens to get from other men what she isn’t getting from you, tell her to go ahead — and be ready to move on.

Brother, you must be ruthless at times. Women are chaotic by nature. If you can’t call on your inner warrior to withdraw your affection and attention when necessary, then you’ve signed yourself onto a sinking ship. Because when a woman leads, the relationship dies. She will drag you both into the dust.

Understand this: this truth is not to make you hate women. It is to make you aware of their nature so you can deal with them wisely.

Love your woman. Pamper her if she deserves it. Treat her like a queen when she behaves as such. But when she messes up, punish the behavior without fear of her tears, her tantrums, or the names she throws at you.

That’s leadership. That’s order. That’s manhood.

Learn it. Apply it.