There were things I withheld from my wife (then girlfriend) when we were still dating
In as much as I supported her as a boyfriend, I made it clear to her that it was not my responsibility so she doesn’t see it as a right. I did not give her more privileges than expected because she was not my wife yet. Likewise, I didn’t demand more than I deserved.
Stop giving too much in a relationship that will lead to your detriment. I was the boyfriend she needed, and I did all that was expected of me, but I did not give too much.
Two weeks into a relationship, some of you have already given up your virginity.
You are yet to know his parents, but some of you have already moved into his house.
As a man, you have taken up full responsibility for a woman you are yet to commit to
As a man, you have gone into debt because the lady said her rent has expired.
So before you met her, who was paying the rent?
What is wrong with all these moves is that you do them with the thinking that they would be loyal to you and marry you.
And when they fail to do that, you begin to call them names and start carrying their names around.
I once had a friend who asked me if he could use all his savings and open a shop for his girlfriend.
I told him that if he must do that, then he must also know that there is a possibility that this girl might break his heart.
And I told him that he should not expect loyalty from her and that let it be out of his genuine love for her.
So whatever he is giving out, he should ensure it is genuine and he can let go of it.
Because the lady can decide to leave him one day, but thank God they are now planning marriage.
Listen, if you must give too much, ensure that you have resolved in your heart that whatever happens, you can take it.
But if you don’t have that mindset, please give your all to the level you can.
The truth is life is dynamic and we cannot be too sure sometimes.
Whatever you are giving, ensure it is out of genuine love, which means even when things go sour, you can stand your ground.
And to you, stop collecting too much when you know you don’t truly love them.
Above all, be wise and use your head.
I pray that the Lord will help you.
I I MOSES
