My wife and I have been married for close to 8 years. I wasn’t around for the first good years of our marriage so the little time I would be around, coitus was always great.

Now that I am around full time, if I don’t initiate, it can easily go up to a month without it. If I initiate it every other day, it feels like am forcing her, she will be there like a log not even a sound. She complains how there’s more ways of being intimate apart from coitus.

We are currently in a two weeks drought but she isn’t bothered. We are literally like roommates at the moment.

Every time this happens we talk and she says that it won’t happen again, only for it to happen over and over again.

I have now resorted to self gratification.

How are other men handling this situation?
Can counselling help with such?