Dear Ladies, There is nothing wrong with staying in your father’s house until you’re married
Dear Ladies,
There is nothing wrong with staying in your father’s house until you’re married.
Moving into an apartment you cannot afford, is the easiest way to reduce yourself to a cheap offering to any man who can help you raise money for house rent. Resist that pressure.
Stay at home!
Yes, even after you have graduated from the university, and after your youth service, if you don’t have a job that can pay your rent effortlessly, and meet your other basic needs, please go back to your father’s house.
There is nothing wrong with that. You can stay at home until you figure out how to start a good business that will sustain you as a single lady.
Furthermore, if you’re looking for capital to start up a small business, there is an easy way to raise money.
LIQUIDATE YOUR ASSETS.
Yes, you heard me!
Sell your iphone and get a less expensive Android, sell your expensive hairs and bags and jewelries.
You’d be amazed how much you will realize.
Stop living a life you cannot afford, if your boyfriend breaks up with you.
Many of you cry so much after “breakfast”, not because you love the guy so much, but because you know you can’t maintain your lifestyle without a rich boyfriend.
That’s why you couldn’t wait to heal emotionally, after your last break-up, before jumping into another relationship, because you needed money, and not love.
I know sometimes, after school, most parents have this expectation of you. It’s either you marry immediately or you start catering for the family. Don’t let such pressures push you into a lifestyle that will destroy your dignity as a lady.
Many of you are still single, because most men know you don’t have any job or business that can sponsor the kind of lifestyle you flaunt.
Your phones, bags, hairs, house rent etc are too expensive for a jobless lady, who is still trying to find her feet. And it’s obvious you’re not a trust fund lady. So, any man that meets you will easily conclude that you’re a “runs girl”, who uses her body to get whatever she wants,
Because you’re using things, or living in an apartment you cannot afford ordinarily.
Go back to your father’s house, except you have a business or a job that can take care of your basic needs, with or without a man.
As long as you’re not lazy, and you know you’re doing your best to break even financially, there is no shame in working from home.
I mean no disrespect.
I write with a sense of deep concern.
May God bless your hustle, and prosper the work of your hands.
And may God bring men your way that will appreciate your efforts to become an independent lady.
Amen.
