I’ve been married for five years now but I haven’t been able to bear a child for my husband. We have tried several options to no avail. My husband’s family has been making life hell for me because I have not been able to bear a child yet all these while.

His mum will throw insults at me and even said she didn’t know her son got married to his fellow man. At every slightest opportunity she would call me a log of woo, furniture, kitchen chair etc.

I have been enduring all these but still treated them as family. My husband lost his job last year and he has been struggling to get another one. I have always been a supportive wife even when he was still working. I’m an IT engineer and I earn 3 times more than my husband. A few months after he lost his job, I proposed to my husband if we could start up a family business as it will enable him to be independent on his own with fear of being fired but he declined. Ever since he lost his job he has been traveling a lot more than before on the pretext of going to look for a job. Also he has been demanding money from me, more often than usual so I became a little concerned. I raised my concern but he got angry and said is it because he doesn’t work that I want to control how he spends money? I kept quiet. He’ll travel at times for weeks and won’t call or tell me where he went to. I complained to his mom but her response was, “what’s there that he’s coming back to?” I was shocked.

I’ll cry my eyes out at home alone. Recently, I wasn’t feeling too well so I went to the hospital for a check up, behold the doctor confirmed me 6 weeks pregnant. With all the excitement I picked up my phone to call my husband to break the good news, it was a lady that picked up and said he’s not around then she hung up the call.

I have been suspecting my husband has been cheating but I had no evidence. I called back but no response, I kept calm and kept stirring at my pregnancy results with so much joy in me. 2 days later my husband returned in the evening but he wasn’t all joyful as usual but I assume he was just tired so I said when his mood is much better I’ll share my good news.

I prepared food for him and as we sat on the table eating he said he had something to tell me. I thought he found a new job. He boldly said he needed a large sum of money to pay for 6months rents for a place he has just secured.

I asked if he had finally decided to go in for business and what kind of business. He said NO! he’s not going into any business but there’s this lady who has a 2yrs old child for him and he would like to get a comfortable place for them because she’s about 3 months pregnant again for him. I was speechless and all appetite left me. I couldn’t eat anymore. Without any remorse or shame.

He went further to say if I’m not providing the money then he will have no choice than to move them into our home so I should make my choice because since I have not been able to give him a child some one has helped me implying the problem is not from him but me so I should be grateful. I felt as if a knífe was píerced into my heart.

It’s been 4 days now I haven’t been myself, I haven’t revealed to him I’m pregnant. I don’t think I can use my money to fruit bills for his side chick. I cannot do that and I don’t think I will be comfortable living with them in my house either. It’s our house we jointly built it. As at now his family members are insisting if I don’t want to do the needful I should pack out. I’m ready to let go of the properties because I can acquire another house right now with my savings and take care of myself.

My worry is I’m thinking of leaving without telling him I’m pregnant. I don’t know if it’s the right thing to do. I know people will say I abandoned my husband after he lost his job. But I don’t think even if I do all what he says I’ll still have peace in my marriage. Please I really do need your advice. Keep me anonymous